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Christian Dating Tips: #1

Jun 22, 2018 | 4 Comments

by Steve Watters

Christian Dating Tips #1: Choose to give up other choices

Why does it feel so hard to make a commitment in a relationship–especially to decide to marry someone? One primary reason is that we typically want to keep our options open. We want to stay flexible in case a better opportunity comes along.

But as marriage researcher Scott Stanley says, “commitment always means making a choice to give up other choices.” You have to make a choice regarding your ability to choose. That can sound like torture when you’ve been conditioned for so much of your life to be a good shopper–to maximize your choices and to always know the return policy before you buy something.

Making a choice for marriage means saying, “This is it–I’m going to forgo any further choices.” As scary as that might sound, it’s a good thing to do. It’s not good to stay in decision mode for a long time. When you’re buying a new phone, a car or especially a house, it’s valuable to shop around, scope out your options and do some comparative shopping, but after awhile, you know you have to just make a choice on something and move on with your life.

There’s much life ahead to enjoy one the other side of a decision. Yes, it means forgoing other choices–such as the imaginary person you expect to come around the corner as soon as you commit to the good option right in front of you. But it also means moving past the anxious task of wading through choices and finally enjoying the benefits of a choice made.

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