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Don’t test-drive your girlfriend

Oct 5, 2015 | 1 Comment

This guest post is from The Marry Well Guide by Michael Lawrence

Too often in dating relationships we think and act like consumers rather than servants. And not very good consumers at that. After all, no one would ever go down to his local car dealership, take a car out for an extended test drive, park it in his garage, drive it back and forth to work for several weeks, maybe take it on vacation, having put lots of miles on it, and then take it back to the dealer and say, “I’m just not ready to buy a new car.”

But so often, that’s exactly the way men treat the women they’re dating. Endlessly “test driving” the relationship, without any real regard for the spiritual and emotional wear and tear they’re putting her through, all the while keeping their eyes out for a better model.

The Scriptures are clear. We are not to take advantage of one another in this way. Instead, as Paul says in Romans 13:10, “Love does no harm to its neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.”

Copyright © 2007 Michael Lawrence. All rights reserved. International copyright secured.

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A Duke graduate, Michael received a Master of Divinity degree from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary and a doctorate in Church History at Cambridge University. He and his wife, Adrienne, have four children: Michael, Christian, Samuel, and Sarah. He currently serves as Senior Pastor of Hinson Baptist Church in Portland, OR.

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