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Traditional Dating > Modern Courtship?

Aug 15, 2014 | 4 Comments

by Beth Brown

Thomas Umstaddt Jr. over at PracticalCourtship.com is on a crusade to wipe out the current trend among conservative Christians that practice courtship. He instead proposes a return to traditional dating.

In this article, he makes a lengthy case for old-fashioned dating, drawing on stories from his grandmother’s youth (1930′s and 40′s) who “never went out with the same guy twice in a row.” He writes,

That sounded crazy to me. So, I asked her the rationale behind it. She explained that the lack of exclusivity helped them guard their hearts and kept things from getting too serious too quickly. The lack of exclusivity kept the interactions fun and casual. “The guys wouldn’t even want to kiss you!” she said.

The lack of exclusivity helped the girls guard their hearts and kept the boys from feeling entitled to the girl. How could a boy have a claim to her time, heart or body if she was going out with someone else later that week?

In today’s sexualized culture, could this blueprint for casually, socially engaging the opposite sex still work? And is this a better alternative to the courtship model we see many Christians following right now?

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