by Motte Brown
Christian dating tip #27: Expect problems
Falling in love can make you blind. Scott Stanley compares it to a boiling pot producing a lot of steam. The steam, you see, comes from all the romantic emotions as a relationship progresses. And this can make it very difficult to see clearly. But of this you can be sure: There are problems with your relationship whether you can see them or not. Because, each of you is a sinner.
There are two things to keep in mind about these problems. 1) Do not sweep them under the rug and assume that problems will smooth over once you’re married. 2) Do not think more of the problems than you should. I know these seem like opposing statements but they’re both true if you look at them the right way.
Number one simply means you want to keep your eyes wide open on the dating/courting side of marriage. You need to see through the steam that emotions can create and be careful that you do not overlook serious flaws in a relationship.
The second means you shouldn’t think it’s over when you go through difficulty in a relationship. You should expect that there will be significant struggles. You are both selfish sinners wanting your own good and sin will rear its ugly head in one way or another.
Keeping your head in a relationship is easier said than done. That is why it’s important for you to be anchored in the Word of God, be diligent in prayer, and involve godly friends and family in your lives. It’s the only way to see clearly and not be driven by your emotions when things have the appearance of perfection as well as when things go wrong.
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