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Taking His Last Name

Aug 1, 2015 | 2 Comments

by Steve Watters

If you’re a woman thinking about marriage, have you ever considered keeping your maiden name or at least hyphenating your new last name when you get married?

That’s a question that Mary Kassian, author of Girls Gone Wise, addressed following a study in the Netherlands indicating that women who take their husband’s last name are “regarded as more emotional, less intelligent, less competent and less ambitious.”

In a post featured on the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, Kassian offers six biblically-based reasons for women to change their names when they get married:

Unity: Scripture says that when you become married, you become one flesh with your husband. Changing your name to his reflects that fact. (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:5)

Identification: Scripture teaches that it’s the man who launches out to establish a new family unit. Changing your name to his, and naming your children with the same name, identifies all of you as part of his family unit. (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:5)

Commitment: Changing your name indicates that you are making a permanent, life-long commitment to your husband, and will henceforth be identified as being inseparably linked to him. (Rom. 7:2; Matt. 19:6)

Roles: Changing your name to his indicates that you affirm the biblical pattern of your husband being the head of your marriage and household. (1 Cor. 11:3; Eph. 5)

Paradigm: Since the relationship between husband and wife is a paradigm of the relationship between Christ and the church, Christian women who change their name model and bear witness to the reality of Christ changing our names when we enter a relationship with Him. We—the church bride—identify ourselves with Him and are called by His name when we become one with Him. Christ’s bride is rightly called by her Husband’s name. A woman who changes her name bears witness to this part of the gospel story. (Isa. 43:7, Acts 15:17, 2 Chron. 7:14, Rev. 3:12; 14:1)

Precedence: Adam named Eve. Twice. (Gen. 2:23; 3:20)

Read the rest of Kassian’s thoughtful post here. And share your thoughts below.

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