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Save Submission for Marriage

Jul 24, 2017 | 1 Comment

by Candice Gage

A Facebook friend of mine shared an article with a title that caught my attention, “Women, Stop Submitting to Men.” I clicked on the link and found myself reading a piece by Russell Moore. Once again, I was impressed by his insight and no-nonsense style.

In his article, Moore discusses what he sees as a cultural problem — women are too submissive.

Indeed, a primary problem in our culture and in our churches isn’t that women aren’t submissive enough to men, but instead that they are far too submissive….[Y]es, wives are called to submit to their husbands (Eph. 5:22 ; 1 Pet. 3:1-6 ). But that’s just the point. In the Bible, it is not that women, generally, are to submit to men, generally. Instead, “wives” are to submit “to your own husbands” (1 Pet. 3:1 ).

Submitting to men in general renders it impossible to submit to one’s “own husband.” Submission to one’s husband means faithfulness to him, and to him alone, which means saying “no” to other suitors…

Women, sexual and emotional purity means a refusal to submit to “men,” in order to submit to your own husband, even one whose name and face you do not yet know. Your closeness with your husband, present or future, means a distance from every man who isn’t, or who possibly might not be, him… [T]here is no biblical category for “boyfriend” or “lover,” and you owe such designation no submission. In fact, to be submissive to your future husband you must stand back and evaluate, with rigid scrutiny, “Is this the one who is to come, or is there another?” That requires an emotional and physical distance until there is a lifelong covenant made, until you stand before one who is your “own husband.”

In dating relationships, it’s important for men and women to behave in ways that don’t conflict with God’s design for marriage. Men should lead, and women should respond, but this doesn’t entail special submission on the part of women. Rather, both parties should seek to love the other in the Lord as they submit to Christ.

Ladies, a man isn’t your spiritual head until after marriage. So, save submission until then.

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